MEN Are A Woman’s End and Women Want To Be A MAN’S End.

If I hear one more woman tell me that she doesn’t need a man or that a man isn’t her end, I am going to get on a megaphone and call BULLSHIT across the fucking globe.

Heterosexual women who talk about MEN like they don’t need or want men but can’t stop obsessing about them are LYING.

I KNOW A WOMAN’S WORTH DOESN’T COME FROM A MAN but WOMEN WANT LOVE ABOVE ALL ELSE.

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There is a push in our culture for females to find their worth outside of men, which I think is fundamentally healthy.

YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE YOU GO LOOKING FOR A MAN TO LOVE YOU.

However, rejecting men and the need of men, and pretending like not needing men is POWER is my issue.

I think rejecting the NEED OF MEN is WRONG.

Loving yourself first doesn’t mean you need to reject your desire or need for love with men.

If you have to reject something, like your desire or love of men, then you aren’t empowered, YOU ARE IN DENIAL.

All this rejection pits us against one another, it doesn’t UNITE US and I am all about uniting men and women in TRUTH.

Most women want that unprecedented love story. Most women don’t want to die alone. Most women want love more than they want other things in life and rejecting that reality doesn’t serve anyone. All it does is keep people living in denial about what’s really going on.

Wanting LOVE or having a MAN be a WOMAN’s end isn’t weakness. It’s honest.

You can choose to deny this all you want and pretend to be so high and mighty that you DON’T NEED anyone but yourself, but the truth is YOU DO.

Women need Men as much as Men need Women.

Instead of denying this, why can’t you get comfortable with the truth?

You all like to have relationships, you all like sex, and you know that there is nothing more potent in this world than LOVE, so why not just admit it?

Why do small minded twits have to tell my thinking isn’t forward because I openly admit that WOMEN NEED MEN?

What is forward thinking? Living a land of NO NEED so you don’t get disappointed or hurt?

Yeah, that sounds EVOLVED.

You can live in whatever fantasy you want to make yourself feel empowered but the IMPORTANCE OF MEN in a woman’s life hasn’t changed one bit no matter how empowered we have become. MEN ARE STILL VALUABLE.

Women might fuck who they want to fuck, pioneer their own paths and take on the world, and do incredible things and be madly in love with their own lives but to pretend that not needing men makes women strong when men are the very thing that women want, is just silly.

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Does anyone, but me, get how sad it is to promote the unimportance of men in a woman’s life like it’s a triumph when it’s not a triumph at all, it’s a TRAGEDY!

When did it become cool to not need MEN? What’s next WATER? AIR?

Are we really celebrating how amazing it is to not need MEN when MEN are what we want?

It is rare, very rare, that a woman does not seek LOVE as her end.

Spin this truth however you need to. Whether you feel more comfortable saying LOVE is my end instead of MEN are my end, whatever, the bottom line is still the same.

MEN ARE A WOMAN’S END and WOMEN WANT TO BE A MAN’S END.

Yeah, I said it.

And, no, I didn’t stutter.

Most women do not openly admit this truth or risk letting men know this for two reasons:

1). WOMEN DO NOT WANT TO BE VIEWED AS WEAK

Women are ANYTHING BUT WEAK, and the fact that women fear appearing weak, especially to men, is insane. Anyone who sees a woman as weak is clueless about the strength of the feminine. A lot of women have disconnected from their sacred feminine energy viewing that side of themselves as weak when it fact the feminine is one of the two strongest forces on the planet. Masculine energy is not the only strength in this world. The sacred feminine in women embodies aspects of the universe: creation, life, renewal, restoration, birth, healing, receptivity, nurturing, love, motherhood, understanding, compassion, insight, intuition, wisdom, connection, and sensuality. All of these aspects of the feminine are deeply needed in our world and for a woman to divorce herself from her nature so she can compete in a man’s world for dominance and power is a travesty not a fucking triumph!

WE NEED TO RECLAIM OUR HONOR AND THE POWER OF THE FEMININE.

Women have a responsibility to themselves to turn back to their nature and speak the truth of their beings with pride and clarity. WOMEN ARE NOT MEN; WE ARE WOMEN. As an Awake Woman I have decided to be a voice that speaks out for the women of the world who are strong, who are fierce, who can do and accomplish great things and still long for absolute union with men. A women who runs a company is no better or braver than a woman who is a stay at home mom. A woman who never marries is no better or empowered than woman who marries. Value and worth of a woman doesn’t come from what she accomplishes in life; it comes from her connections to that which she loves, be it her children, her family, her SELF, or her men.

Women ARE NOT WEAK for desiring LOVE and UNION WITH MEN.

Women are the ones who have the bravery to be honest and any man or RADICAL FEMINIST WOMAN that denies a woman’s deepest desire and heart, and makes her look or feel weak for having feelings and emotions and needing men, isn’t worthy of women or love.

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2). WOMEN ARE TERRIFIED TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF

A woman who does not a have a strong sense of self worth and has been wounded by her father or let down repeatedly by men are terrified to admit their needs in love for fear of getting hurt or worse being with people who take advantage of them.

Women are deep feeling beings. The fact that women feel, that we love, that we care, desire, and want to experience a profound connection with MEN does not make us WEAK.

Pretending not to have NEEDS is not EMPOWERMENT.

Pretending to be above what you want and desire is not EMPOWERMENT.

When did the desire for ultimate love become a WEAKNESS?

When did becoming a CEO of a major corporation or whatever a woman does in her life professionally inherit more value than LOVE?

Our culture has become so need-a-phobic (yes, I just made that up) that we cannot BE HONEST about what we need and crave from the opposite sex.

WE ARE ALL LIVING IN DENIAL.

It’s LAME.

All this pseudo-empowerment is getting women nowhere in a hurry.

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The reason Consciously Awake Women are on the rise and speaking out for the women out there who haven’t quite figured out WHY what they want from men and WHAT they get from men doesn’t align, is simple.

When you don’t get what you want you are out of alignment with your TRUTH.

You either denying it, suppressing it or pretending to be someone you are not.

Women have been taught that in order to be strong we need to be better than men, we need to compete with men, and we cannot rely on men. We are taught to be self sufficient as a way to avoid getting hurt or disappointed. Women have been taught to seek a career above a man or else this puts too much power in the hands of men.

The fact that women feel they cannot rely on men to show up, do the right thing, and take ownership of their emotional maturity and role in love is ridiculous and yet we think promoting self sufficiency is better than acknowledging what is really going on.

The world is in a FUCKED UP place right now. There is more confusion between Men and Women than ever before. Women don’t go after what they want in men half the time. They expend boat loads of energy on men that will never be what they want and they wonder why, and then when the men do show up that can give them what they want they don’t want it. It’s a never-ending saga that ends in despair and disillusionment.

Men are so fed up with how confused women are that they have taken the FUCK IT mentality. They’re tired of getting hurt too and they’re tired of the mixed messages.

THIS IS OUR LIVES PEOPLE.

THIS ISN’T A FUCKING JOKE.

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What is happening between the sexes: the lies, the power struggle, the bitterness, the hatred, the competition, and the disharmony is destroying the very fabric of RESPECT and relationships.

AND WE ARE ALLOWING IT.

NONE OF US ARE BEING HONEST OR REAL WITH EACH OTHER. WE ARE TOO BUSY PRETENDING TO BE STRONGER THAN WE ALL ARE. WE AE ALL AFRAID TO HAVE FEELINGS AND GET HURT BUT THAT IS WHAT MAKES US HUMAN!!!!!!!!!!!

Everyone has feelings. Everyone has hopes, dreams, desires, love and joy to share and instead of sharing connections that help us evolve and prosper we acting like terrified children who have no clue how to be in their emotions. Everyone can be hurt, so WHY are we pretending we can’t be?

Is this what we want?

Is this what we want to pass on to our kids?

NO TRADITION? NOTHING SACRED? It’s just a free for all, fuck for all, and the only thing your heart will ever experience in this life is a prison or worse HELL.

I DON’T WANT TO LIVE IN FEAR OF WHAT I TRULY WANT AND I DON’T WANT TO PASS THAT LEGACY OF FEAR ON TO MY DAUGHTER.

I am not afraid to openly admit that LOVE IS MY END, that MEN ARE MY END.

Whether I end up with one man or several men, MEN ARE STILL MY END.

MY LIFE IS BETTER BECAUSE OF THE MEN IN IT.

I know I will accomplish GREAT things in my life but this does not define my WORTH. What defines my worth is my ability to live in the truth and not run from my deepest desires. I am not afraid to be vulnerable or real. And you go suck yourself if you think that what I am saying disempowers women or men. Or if my thinking isn’t progressive. Disconnecting from love or the opposite sex isn’t power. It’s not even wise.

If you are on the same page with me, even if you are not ready to admit it, PLEASE, I am begging you to stop with the bullshit.

WOMEN

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1). STOP PRETENDING THAT YOU DON’T WANT LOVE

It confuses the shit out of men and sends them mixed messages. You sabotage your own happiness when you are not honest about your desire for love.

2). STOP TREATING MEN LIKE THEY ARE GOING TO LET YOU DOWN

Just leave the ones that let you down and choose better men. Don’t sit there and whine about shitty men and then go back to them like you don’t have a choice. Do something about it. Choose men that give you what you need or own that you are perpetuating your own misery.

3) STOP ACTING LIKE BITCHES TO MEN

Don’t expect the world from men and then act like cunts. When you’re a bitch to men you beat them down. Don’t waste your time on men you want to be a bitch to. Spare them and yourself. Find people that bring out the best in you and if you act like a bitch realize that your behavior is damaging.

4). YOU ARE NOT EMPOWERED IF YOU CANNOT BE VULNERABLE AND ASK FOR WHAT YOU NEED

Men are not mind readers. Have the courage to ask for what you need and come from a place of what you want need without chastising everyone for not giving you what you need. Being vulnerable means honesty. Be honest, even if you have to risk getting hurt. It’s better to get hurt and be open then close yourself and be a liar.

5). BE LOVING AND HONEST

Women need to soften. All of you are so on the defense. This isn’t fucking football. Be loving and you will get love. Soften and you will experience more of what you need. Don’t run away if you don’t get what you need immediately. Keep your focus on what you need and be gentle.

MEN

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1). STOP BLAMING WOMEN FOR YOUR ACTIONS

The only person who has power over how you act is YOU. If women are bitches or you’ve been hurt, you still need to choose how you want to be in the world. Don’t run around punishing women because you can’t own your emotions and vulnerability. Take responsibility for how you are in the world. If you even think about blaming a woman you are NO MAN.

2). BE THE KIND OF MAN AND LOVER YOU WANT TO BE WITHOUT SOMEONE ELSE TELLING WHAT YOU SHOULD WANT

Don’t wait until you absolutely have to figure this out, FIGURE IT OUT. Have a sense of pride and masculinity. Take some initiative and direction from yourself. Decide how you want to be with women and what you want, so you care about what you do and why without anyone having to pressure you. There is nothing unsexier to a woman than a man who doesn’t sort things out for himself.

3). TAKE A LOOK AT YOUR PAST AND HEAL YOUR WOUNDS

Just because you are a man doesn’t mean you don’t have a ton of emotional wounds and stuff from your past you need to process and heal. Healing is not just women’s work. A lot of you are unaware of how your past plays itself out in your present. You have issues, we all do, so go find out what yours are and heal yourself.

4). GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY

If a woman tells you how she feels and you fire back with what she does to make you feel a, y, and z, you are not listening. You have to learn how to listen and respect what your woman feels. If she cannot talk to you and share her truth or her experience of you without you defending yourself, she will feel disrespected and lose interest. You cannot see yourself clearly and you are not above someone’s reflection of you. Get out of your own way and listen to people when they tell you their experience of you. There is valuable info there.

5). DON’T HOLD SHIT IN: EXPRESS YOURSELF CLEARLY

When you feel things, don’t hold it in. COMMUNICATE. CLEARLY. HONESTLY.  Let her handle your truth. If a woman cannot listen to you or hold your truth, that is information. Do your part so that you can hold yourself in esteem and know you have done what you can.


KM

 

 

An extremely imperative article and meticulously written and expressed. Bravo!

Men have a hard time showing emotion directly. We actually built the Atom Bomb just to show ladies that we love them. Women are critical to the survival of any and every man. Women are the driving force that motivated us to do, well, anything. We look cool, we steal, we kill, we learn, we work, we workout, we build, we don’t cry all for women.

Hey Kelly,

Great post! I’m loving this direction, fully supporting you here. Thank you for steering the ship.

With Much Love & Hope, Rick xxoo