What Sexy-Consciously Awake Women Want SEXUALLY From MEN

Consciously Awake Women LOVE SEX.

 

Women who don’t love sex or talk about it like it is chore (they’d rather vacuum or tidy up the house than connect sexually) are having THE WRONG KIND OF SEX!

Women who don’t desire sex at least once a day but want to, need to listen up.

Contrary to popular belief women ARE NOT less sexual than men, we are just wired differently. Many men can get an erection and go from ZERO to BLAST in less than five minutes and be like, “Dayum, that was pretty good…” While a woman needs a whole heck of a lot more than that to feel sexually satisfied. Unless her body is convulsing orgasms and she is screaming roars of ecstasy the neighbors can hear, what you thought you gave her wasn’t all that great dude.

If you’re a MAN and you want to be the kind of lover that makes women never forget you, you need to seriously educate yourself on the ART of SEX and what it means to give a woman mind blowing orgasms both with your tongue and your Prince Charming.

Women are drawn to CAPABLE men who CARE about what they do and how they do it.  You ever heard, “You get what you put out?” It’s true. You want a good lover you have got to be a good lover YOURSELF.

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Consciously Awake Sex is an exploration of connection, energy, passion, and transcendental states.

Physical sex is just one level of SEX.

If you are new to the concept of Consciously Awake Sex, let me be the first to tell you that you are more than a physical body. In addition to your physical form you possess energetic bodies and so does everyone else. Physical sex can only take you so far. It’s surface with very little depth, which a lot of people like, given it requires little skill. Sex is so complex that to think you know about it just because you can do it, isn’t skill, that’s mediocrity. And mediocrity gets real friggin boring after awhile…

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Anyone can have basic boring sex.

Not everyone has the balls, wherewithal or courage to conquer the skills it takes to have energetically connected sex.

To experience what you are truly made of and explore the depths of another, you have to get beyond the physical into the other energetic bodies to become the states of ecstasy and pleasure you once thought only existed in dreams.

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I’m NOT JOKING or feeding you a load of crap, and this isn’t unrealistic.

YOU HAVE TO WANT IT and NOT FEAR CONNECTING TO OTHER ENERGETIC ASPECTS OF YOU TO EXPERIENCE THESE HIGHS.

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WHAT CONSCIOUSLY AWAKE WOMEN WANT SEXUALLY FROM MEN

 

1).  EMOTIONALLY OPEN MEN

Men who are emotionally closed have no real energy pulsing through their penises. An erection is not enough to make you feel the depth of his energetic being nor connect to higher planes. You need to feel energy emanating from his body and most of the time this requires an emotionally open man.

You might be wondering, what the hell does that feel like? When a man connects his energy to yours you know it. It’s electric. Suddenly you are not just a physical body anymore. Even though you are still having a physical experience you are also having an energetic experience that expands far beyond your body into infinity.

Men who are disassociated, depressed, have sexual hang ups, and emotional issues are hard to feel energetically. Although penis size does matter to some degree, especially for women who have caves or tunnels for vaginas, a man who’s connected to his energy source and his soul, can connect to your energetic body no matter what you got going on down south. When two people connect energetically, not just physically, MAGIK happens. Energy pulses and quivers at high vibrational frequencies as it courses through your body making sex a complete body high. Conscious SEX transcends basic sex on ALL LEVELS. It’s raw and primal, and can make you remember the essence of primordial creation. Which is a WILD RIDE for those of you that like to get lost in energy and explore the inner dimensions of being and spirit.

2). PASSION: SEX IS AN ART

A man who has vision sees sex as art, and to be quite frank you shouldn’t even go out with men who lack vision or creativity. Passion and passionate men cannot be underrated. A man who is passionate about anything and invests himself whole heartedly into the things he desires to do well will more than likely look to sex as art and give you mind blowing orgasms. A passionate lover will have conscious hands. He will look deep into your eyes and connect to every square inch of you. You will feel his energy in his hands when he connects to you. His energy will coarse it’s way into your skin, down into your blood, all the way to your heart and soul.

Every new lover needs to take time to explore what each individual wants and a well trained lover will know how to listen to your pulse, feel the rhythms of your body, and get in-tuned with your energy. A man who doesn’t know how to connect to your energetic body cannot produce this level of connection. Connecting energetically requires one to know how to get beyond the surface of physical pleasure into the depth of your being. That kind of access is wooed and seduced, it’s not basic. Men who take pride in the skills they have will take the time, and treat your body like a temple. These men are the kind of men that understand the alchemy of sexuality.

If you are reading this and want to know how to connect to your energy or have Conscious Sex you have to educate yourself in any way possible about this process. There are countless resources online. Don’t just wait for someone to teach you, go figure it out.

3). SKILLS: BE THE BEST LOVER YOU CAN BE

A man who wants to be a good lover will be a good lover. If he has spent little time understanding how to be a great lover, if he doesn’t have a treasure trove of skills that make you cum back for more, haha, you can do better.

It’s not MEAN or CRUEL to want men to be great men or great lovers, especially if you’re doing the work and investing in evolving yourself. If you want a great lover, you too need to be a great lover. If you don’t know how, don’t go to porn, there are numerous resources available that can guide you down the path of sexuality and love. Seek out what you want to be and experience.

All men need to learn how to be good lovers. Just because you have a cock doesn’t mean you know diddley squat about what it means to be a lover. A true lover is a giver. He explores your body and wants to understand what makes you tick and cares about how your pleasure. Reciprocity is HUGE when it comes to the art of the lover. It’s a dance, a exchange of energy that is most balanced when it goes both ways.

4).  VARIETY: VALUE DIFFERENT POSITONS

On top, missionary, and from behind are not the be all end all. Be creative and adventurous when it comes to sexual positions and what women like. Learn what positions work and why, and find out what she is into. If you are adventurous or kinky don’t connect with someone who isn’t. You need to choose lovers that have the same level of openness and open-mindedness as you do.

ALL WOMEN are not created equal, they are diverse in how they feel, quality and shape of the vagina, and certain positions are better for certain women than others. Mix it up. Experiment. Don’t get monotonous. If you have a hard time feeling her out, ASK QUESTIONS. Women like men who know what they are doing, but we also like curiosity especially when you’re inquiring about what makes us tick.

5).  TOUCH: KISS, FEEL, BREATHE

There are three golden rules of sex. Kissing is one of the most erotic forms of sexuality and can fuel so much passion between lovers. Kissing alone can unlock energetic bodies. Don’t be in a hurry, breathe, use the breath to be intentional and connect on a much deeper level. A lot of people don’t have the patience to get beyond the physical. It takes practice and Conscious Awareness to unlock the layers of our bodies we keep blocked most of the time. Kissing, the breath, and touch can help to release the energetic body.

6). INTIMACY: CONNECTED SEX

Don’t get me wrong, there is a time and place for quickies, but once you learn how to connect energetically you can still have Conscious Sex and go at it. Like all things it takes practice and conditioning. In the beginning it takes TIME, which means you have to make TIME. It’s SEX. Whatever your excuses are for not having it or making the time for sex need to evaporate if you want to get beyond the mundane.

True intimacy cannot be created when you are in a hurry. We live in a fast paced world, but that doesn’t mean we have to have jack rabbit sex or sex that ends with one person busting a nut while the other is left unsatisfied.

In order to connect energetically you have to become intentional, focus on the breath, touch, kiss, feel. There is so much healing and sensuality in touch. Don’t be in a hurry to get through sex like the ultimate goal is an orgasm. If you let go of focusing on orgasm as the end goal and actually drop in and enjoy the ENTIRE EXPERIENCE: the dance, exchange and mix of energy, and alchemy of two souls aligning in physical ecstasy. I can guarantee you that the ONE blast-O orgasm you were hoping for will turn into multiple orgasms and an entire spectrum of pleasures.

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There is so much more to our bodies and beings than porn sex.

It’s okay to PORN it UP every now and then, but if you want to get good at the ART of SEX and have transcendental experiences and multiple orgasms, try the Consciously Awake Route. You’ll thank me later. 🙂

Peace. Love. And LOTS OF HOT CONSCIOUS SEX!

XO, Kelly Marceau
 

 

 

 

 

The truth in this article screams! I vouch for it in its entirety. Four years after my husband’s death,my childhood sweetheart found me. We had always connected at a level almost spiritual,but family movement prevented us from hooking up. Now both in our fifties and knowing what we wanted,it was like coming home! We complete each others sentences,etc. In bed it’s so incredibly sweet to be together and the connection so deep. The way he explores my body,you’d think I was a twenty year old! He just loves to touch me! And eat me,and take.In turn I want to do so many things to and for him. Sometimes the high is so unbelievably unutterably indescribable! We really do make love…I’ve never been so paid attention in my life,not even when we were young,not even when I was married! We are thinking of settling down together but as he says,he’s back for keeps and I’m not looking outside of him,so we’re good. Each day I can’t thank God enough for giving me back my childhood love in such perfect harmony of mind,body and soul.

Such a relief to read this perspective from a conscious woman who’s well aware of the energetic realm. It almost seems weird to “say it out loud” but this kinda lovemaking you’re talking about goes so far beyond the classic shmang. Does anyone else feel that? Did anyone else feel like what on fuckin earth was that the first time it happened to them?

I wish there were more woman (and men) like you in the world Kelly, thanks for crafting this piece for the world to see.

Kelly- again, very well said. Each posting is even more riveting than the last. Really amazing work. Do you ever explore your emotions though art? I use art to express the feelings I have and am coached to physically get into the work. It can be stressful yet freeing at the same time, much like sex. It takes a great amount of work to release the passion that comes both physically and emotionally.
Is sex art?
Grant

Beautiful article, Kelly. You really covered everything here. I love your straightforwardness, your humor and your clarity.

As for men like the one who posted about the women not being a good lover, women respond to what we receive. If a woman is shut down, I guarantee there is an emotional wound or something from her past that resulted in her feeling this way.

Through love, connection and really tuning into a woman’s response, as Kelly describes in this article, you will gently open her up to receiving and responding accordingly. Women love to give back, but we need to feel inspired to do so. I recommend David Deida’s writings to help you on your path.

We are the receptors. It’s how our bodies are built. A woman’s sex goes inside her body, a man’s penis projects outward. This is a big clue on how to approach sexual interaction on an energetic level. If a woman is receiving great, intuitive and skilled oral sex, she will feel inspired to give the same back. But if you ask or expect her to give you a “blow job”, and you’re not sending her to God with your own tongue. Don’t expect her to really enjoy the experience or to keep coming back unless there are huge self-worth issues and she has yet to awaken to how important it is for her to feel cherished and filled up first.

A woman who feels cherished, filled up and has profound mind blowing, I saw God kind of sex, will do anything in her power to make sure you experience the same. But, just like dancing… the natural form of things and the way the dance of the masculine/ feminine works is, you’ve got to take the lead.

For women reading this who feel inhibited about guiding your sexual partner and helping him to give to you this kind of profound blissful sex, start with yourself. In the work I do, I guide women on how to explore your own body, while inviting the lover essence of God Source to the party, so the solo experience is not just physical, but also emotionally and spiritually fulfilling. Through this, you will have more clarity on what you want from your partner.

Men generally really want to give a woman pleasure, but they do need our guidance. No two female bodies are the same. Communicate. If you don’t know now, find someone to help you. I work with couples who have been together for as long as 30 years and with me in the room, the women learn to communicate to their men for the first time on how and where they want to be touched. We were never taught this.

In my experience, women stay silent because they are so concerned about hurting the man’s feelings. She doesn’t want him to think he’s not getting it right, while all along, he is. It’s a myth that men instinctively know what to do. And, although there are many men who believe they know what they are doing just because they have a cock, in my experience there are as many or more who know they need guidance and are eager to please, but they really need us to speak up.

Thanks again Kelly. Great writing. Much love

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haha, I think this article went over a lot of peoples heads judging by some of the replies. its not about either sex being good or bad at sex, more an article on trying to explain that there is more to it than a hung horse or a high libido. agreed though that those things play a factor in it, the article is really just saying that given a little time, effort, and the right compatibility, the end results can be out of this world! agreed, and not a bad read!

To the men who would get offended by this article: Woman represents the moon and man represents the sun. The Moon receives/reflects and the Sun gives/initiates. The woman can be more inspiring by being willing and responsive, but the man clearly has to have working equipment and know how to push all the right buttons. The woman’s biological job is to be OPEN. The man’s biological job is to ENTER. However, once those biological needs have been met both parties must become mutable, accommodating, ego-less, passionate, vulnerable and in the moment. As man and woman age it is important that each is in optimal health so that sex is ALWAYS possible. Medications and toxic food gets in the way of full erections and orgasms. Basically, sex is a reflection of every layer of a persons mind body and soul. Sex tells the story that one tries to hide. If you are unhealthy, sex will tell it. If you are afraid, sex will tell it. If you are crazy, sex will tell it. If you are fake, sex will tell it. You can lie all day long about anything, but once you have sex the truth is revealed. So if you are a man and you find this article offensive somewhere deep down you have lied to yourself about your performance and there are some areas that you are blaming women for concerning your shortcomings, rather than looking at yourself. I call men and women both to be honest and the sex will reflect and reward that.

As a man who has achieved a level of mastery of the intimate arts and who every lover I’ve had has told me I was their best ever, I can say for certain that this article is pretty right-on. The most important part is #2 Sex is an Art. It is an incredibly powerful thing to consistently turn women’s worlds upside down within a week of meeting from giving them touch and connected sex like they hadn’t imagined was possible.

I am stuck in an uncomfortable place at this moment. I understand and appreciate Conscious Touch, and adhere to your 6 Rules, but have trouble finding conscious, awake women. I’ve played by those rules my whole life, just never laid them out in that fashion. So many women have so much armor up, they can’t, or won’t, see me as a Conscious Lover. I am a wimp, that they can walk all over. A few have opened up, but didn’t stick with it. Any thoughts on this dance of claim and surrender?

Its one thing to claim and surrender to One who really appreciates you, but it is another to give yourself away to people who don’t. You need to hold yourself up in your own strength and CLAIM YOURSELF as a sovereign being. –A Temple and a Power that is worth something to give. –Sacred. When you do this, you still hold onto your own Self, and when you find the person who will truly open up and appreciate you, you will see the power of Surrender in them as well.
Don’t let anyone walk on you… You are allowing them to. Possibly because you may be a very gentle and loving Soul, and see yourself as weak. But being gentle and loving is not a weakness, my friend. 😉 Its a beautiful thing, and a great strength if understood and harnessed. Look within yourself and REALLY SEE what it is that MAKES YOU SACRED. <3 Then you will know what an honour it is to share it with the right person. <3

Kelly,
What a deep and inspirational article!!! It takes a deep and understanding person to comprehend the meaning of this type of sex especially when you want to take it to a whole new level with your significant other. This urge comes from love, passion, and the connection you have with that person which pushes the desire to get to know you on a whole different level. Many guys don’t know how to deeply please women especially when women are harder to satisfy than men. It takes a true man to WANT to truly satisfy his significant other and to actually educate themselves. Many women say they love sex, but don’t want to have it as much as men because there it’s the same and we want to do things that we don’t know about. Being more passion and connection! My love of my life educated him self and I realized things I didn’t know about my self because if him. He did this because he WANTED to and to be the MAN, not a boy. Women like to be swept off their feet and sine times let the man take control. The men who had negative comments above are not men and reacted as a surface person. I hope they find love and a connection they are content with so they don’t lash out like above. Women work on stuff too, but if you are a man it’s good to help push the exploration considering we react differently. I learned a whole new side of me because of the love of my life and now sex has a lot more feeling and meaning to me. I can’t explain how amazing the connection is and I learned I needed to explore new positions as well. It helps when the guy is dominate in this aspect! Thank you Kelly for explaining this in such a deep way that actually pushes me to improve.

Daniella

Great article, thank-you.
I have just entered into a highly Sexy-Consciously Awake relationship and all the above resonates with me. We are electrically charged and will spend half a day dancing foreplay and when we make love its is nothing like I have experienced before, even better sex say than on strong recreational drugs. Yes you can have sex 6 times in one day without the blue pill.
Be passionate, attract passionate lovers, be loving and attract loving caring lovers.

Great post, as always, but there’s just a question I have. You’ve said in the past that you’ve never struggled with self-hatred. Well, coming from someone who has and still does on a daily basis, are you saying that due to my depression and anxiety due to self-hatred that I won’t be able to experience these connections you talk about? I understand the importance of working on my problems and not placing them onto others, but a reality without them is just unrealistic. I’d like to think that I can still be of value in a relationship, but I’d like to hear your take on it.

NO. Not at all. That is not what I am saying. You can experience what you open yourself to. Self hate is really a desire of deep love. I watched a beautiful, stunning friend of mine reveal her self hatred to me in my car one night. It literally bonded us for life. I don’t feel self hate in the same way she does, but I have respect for the fact that it is a real issue for some people. I would recommend 5 element acupuncture for self hate, depression and anxiety. Have you ever tried it? You can connect on these levels but you have to connect to your being first and it’s not impossible, but it does require getting to the source of what hurts you. If you ever want to talk about this, let me know. All the Conscious Awareness stuff is a choice. Trust me, even us Consciously Awake types are dealing with stuff. I got visit from DOUBT last night. It never gets easier, you just get better at seeing it for what it is and choosing another way. 🙂 Much love.

I would love to talk about this more, I’m interested in self-improvement and being the best I can be, but I really don’t know where to start and sometimes trying to analyze and thinking about the problem ends up causing more problems 🙁

Wow, some of the criticism you are receiving is pretty ironic. Clearly you must be unsatisfied with your own approach to sex if you think there is anything sexist or self-righteous written here. This goes both ways, as Kelly often mentions, for men and women. These critics have probably experienced a fair share of women that don’t even realize the energy within and surrounding our bodies, or have not been tuned into themselves. None of us who pursue conscious living claim to be saints or “have it all stitched up”. I also do not intend to direct anger or negative energy towards those that left negative feedback. I simply want you to realize that this article is valuable and the words should be taken to heart.

Love and Light Kelly,
Jack

This is a fantastic post! thank you for articulating beautifully the essence of truly conscious sexuality. to the gentlemen above…my partner is a curious conscious man always looking for new ways to explore this art form..and i am constantly doing the same because we both understand our sexuality is essentially our own responsibility but when we come into union with practiced and refined senses to feel the subtle and highly electric frequencies this is when sex moves from just “sex” to mind blowing deep heart passionate lovemaking. yes you can have these connections outside of “sex” but sexual energy is rocket fuel to boost you to that place sometimes stronger, faster deeper and in my opinion with working as a tantra educator, those states have a different quality..its not quite the same, not better or worse…just different. its funny how people get triggered when they cant acknowledge that there is more to learn ALWAYS.

whoever wrote this sounds like a bit of a muppet who thinks they know about…….what do we call it now? Consciously Awake Aware Sexy Business or some other nonsense? To be fair I guess this could be of benefit to those who are not getting any sexual intimacy, or those who are totally burnt out from skanky internet porn and the weekly suburban swingers do, and have come to realize it is just another empty well out there in the movie. This awfully written piece of drivel smacks of an author who has just gone on a workshop, ready a book or seen Tasty Tantra 101 For Novices and thinks they have it all stitched up. They don’t.

Actually, –This is what women what. Sounds like youre just one who cant satisfy.

amen sister! thanks for this post!
i feel there is a big educating around this exact topic as many women are investing so much into their inner world, it can often be unmet with the outnumbered men who are doing the same… i guess we can only really hold ourselves responsible though at the end of the day. and in my experience – if i am fully connected to my inner masculine and feminine, the man is somewhat nudged into integration and presence himself, even if he hasn’t done much ‘inner work’… so we can’t blame men, we just have to take responsibility for ourselves always, and guide them if needed. Like the priestesses and traditions of tantra, the women holds the gateway.

It doesn’t matter if the woman is bad at sex, it’ll still somehow be the mans fault anyway!

We weren’t talking about women being bad at sex. We were talking about men. Are you the kind of guy who when someone tells you something about them you make it about you? Sounds like it.

What about women sucking at sex???? Ever hear of that??? First of all, you can have these type of connections you are speaking of outside of sex… This is feminist propaganda. A lesson for you is have better taste in men.

Lol you sound angry, and bitter. Never a good look! Your negativity is outrageous.

No Joke. The article wasn’t about women sucking at sex. The article was about what women want. If you need to run off on a crazy tangent and get on your high horse about feminism and tell a writer what to do because you are so triggered, take a good long look in the mirror…

Everyone is great at sex with the right partner. If you’ve always had bad sex with women, when do you stop blaming the woman and look within yourself?

The worst sex I’ve ever had was with men who refused read my body, who demanded me to get them off.

The more a man educates himself on his partner and what they like the better the sex is.

Only a hit dog hollers. Women tend to be naturally more intuitive (not categorizing, just speaking in generality). We have an innate nature to be nurturing and have less resistance in being flexible in what our mate desires. Men truly need to become more educated about how to please a woman, especially since so many men don’t seem to have a problem with reaching their orgasms while their counterparts are left bored and unsatisfied. So your statement is unfounded. Men need guidance on how to connect with their women and it’s almost never just physical. Humans are very complex beings that have many layers that need to be aroused in order to fulfill that one (or multiple) peaks that males seem to have no problem fulfilling. When men can open themselves up more, trust me, women will respond in a fantastic way. You’ll have the best sex you could ever dream of having.

Obviously the guys who have all the negative to say SUCK at sex!!!!

I LOVE this article. Love it so much I’ll be sharing it on my own blog. Great stuff. Thanks so much for posting 🙂

You know what is so funny, is you are the kind of guy that women hate. This article is about what WOMEN WANT FROM MEN. Going off and talking about women sucking in bed wasn’t what this article was about. You are going off on your own tangent, because you probably suck in bed. God knows you can’t even listen.